I read an article about how some people are finding a way to praise their children and that's by wearing rubber bands and switching them form one wrist to the next. Really, do you actually believe that this rubber band form of remembering to praise your child is going to last longer than any other fad like Pokemon Go? I don't buy into fads. I look for solutions. I know its difficult to find words of praise, we all go through tough times with our kids. But we have to get beyond fads and ask ourselves what the real issues are with you.
Yes I said it. It's you and not the child. We parent's have unresolved issues from our childhoods that need to be addressed. I suggest heading to your Gp and ask to be referred to a counsellor or therapist so you can get to the root of the issue. Maybe your young one needs to be heard and a professional can surely guide you and your child through the different challenges you face as it relates to praise and discipline. Please put up the rubber bands and cuddle your child when they are acting up in the moment. You may find that you also needed that hug.
Have a read through the article and if it works for you then -go girl.
One of the hardest parts of parenting is setting boundaries for your child, and a simple method, that’s been doing the rounds online, is called the Rubber Band Method for discipline.
The method involves you wearing three (or four, or five) rubber bands around one wrist. During the day, each time you give your child some positive feedback, you move a rubber band to the other wrist. So the aim is to have all the bands on the opposite wrist by the end of the day.
The theory behind this is that you’re using visual cues (ie the rubber bands) to remind yourself to praise your child each day. This can be harder than you think, on those more ‘challenging’ days! There are various versions of this technique online.
For example, blogger MyMamaAdventureCom decided to use three rubber bands to represent negative statements to her child, instead.
‘When I use a negative statement that is not followed by a positive statement. OR when I raise my voice (it happens, not gonna lie), I will move a rubber band from my right wrist to my left wrist,’ she wrote.
‘Hopefully this will keep me in check, even on days when I’m struggling as the parent.’
Time to reconnect
Meanwhile, blogger Jackie at LJSkool said that a doctor had told her about the Rubber Band Method as ‘homework’ in dealing with her son.
‘I had to place three rubber bands on my right wrist in the morning. The goal was to have them all moved over to my left wrist before I got into bed,’ wrote Jackie.
‘The only way I could move one from the right to the left was to catch, my son, Logan doing something good. ANYTHING. No matter how small.’
And Jackie doesn't claim that it’s always easy.
‘Some days it would be dinner time I still had rubber bands on my right hand.
‘Those were the days, after dinner, when I would sit in the rocking chair, grab his favoritest book … and ask if he wanted to come listen to me read to him.
‘He never turned me down.’
Jackie said that this was her time to reconnect with her son, and appreciate him for sitting with her.
‘Catch them doing something good,’ she wrote. ‘How to discipline your child isn’t just about correcting misbehavior.’
There’s no reason why you couldn’t use elastic bracelets, loom band bracelets or elastic hair bands for the same trick.
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